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End of the month wrap-up

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Month ONE wrap!

Super excited! So blessed! This blog is a step into the future here at Open Door Wellness Center. It is a tool that we personally hope helps us all think about the way that we interact with the world around us, particularly the people in that world! 

This month we hit:

Back to school: This is such an exciting time. The joy of new, and even how we all come together to learn and grow!

Suicide prevention: The pain and tragic nature connected to a struggle that becomes so dire that there is no apparent way out, but that doesn’t have to be the end, we can be the light that brings a person hope! All we have to do is give our time and listen! Getting someone to the help they need and being a part of their team!

Bullying: How there is a change and empowerment that can occur on both sides of that coin with the proper help!

Organization: Knowing that we can all improve, and all help those one step behind and get help from someone one step ahead! ALL, and I mean ALL lasting change requires us to grow in our organization skills!

WRAP!

Next Month! The exciting topics that are coming address many things and will have a weekly video series that will help us to understand these things deeper and think more in-depth! I am so blessed to have our team here and I am excited to start our Monthly Holiday Giveaways!!!

So please stay tuned in here and help us continue to be able to be a help to everyone we come in contact with! Remember you can be a person that changes a life each and every day! Thanks!

Organization

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Organization! Well, now there is a topic! This is something that I have processed in many different ways throughout each and every stage of my life. Whether this was in the exciting days of school shopping, and just praying that mom and dad would let me get the “5 Star binder” (goodness those were pricey), or my wife describing fawning over the newest Lisa Frank!

There is just that pull… you know the one! The pull that makes us feel as if there is a way that we can be better at something. At anything. At the core, that “getting better at” almost always involves organization! The organization either in the development or execution of an idea. All ideas take the organization.

You may think that there is no way for you or your loved one to get organized, and truthfully, getting this done alone is almost assuredly going to lead to failure. However, having a person in your corner will help your chances of success skyrocket! You can be the person to help someone organize themselves for success. This is why we believe so strongly in a TEAM!

Here is the cool thing! We all have a level of ability in the area of organization. What would have been impossible for us before is possible once we have accomplished it! Whether it is our kids, friends, or even the coworker that is trying to sort out their TPS reports, they can all be supported by you once you know how to accomplish a task.

When your little one starts their journey of organization, it is so difficult. Please never lose or forget that everything is hard until it is not. All of us have experienced that same difficulty. But, once we overcome a task, many of us forget the difficulty that we had. We end up laying unfair/unrealistic expectations on those we love, supervise, or even just spend time around. I have been, and still am, at times, guilty of forgetting how hard something was!

So if you can read this (and possibly even if you can’t), you can help someone who is just behind where you are in this crazy life journey! I challenge you to find that person that you can help, and the person that can help you! At Open Door, we call these mentors and peers (more exciting stuff on this to come!).

Action Steps:

  1. Acknowledge we can all help someone!
  2. Help that person!
  3. Set a goal to better yourself in a specific area!
  4. Get a person to help you that has that down!
  5. And never… never… belittle a person for having a hard time, always know that something is difficult literally until the point it isn’t! That goes for everything, from putting away our toys, to running a family or a business! 

Thank you all! Blessings!

Bullying

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I want to start this blog today with us going on a journey. I want us to start that journey only if you are in a safe place. A place that you know there is no reason to truly fear. Maybe your room, or even that favorite nook that you drink your coffee in the morning. Man… I love coffee! 

So it is here that I would like to ask you to close your eyes, but now that wouldn’t really work would it lol? But after you read the next 3 lines please do this and close your eyes. Thank you!

Go with me if you will… To a place that you have been, that all of us have been. A place where you felt weak, unable to act, I mean the serious ability to not move. Where you felt powerless. 

Please really take 30 seconds and sit there and feel that…

Now when you are done, remember you are in that safe place that you started. I want you to track your emotions and what you felt. Maybe even write out a list of five things going on in your body, and mind. 

My guess is that you felt a slew of emotions, one of them being pain. And I would almost bet the house that many of you had a specific person that you felt that pain come from. 

This brings me back to the adage “Sticks and Stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me”. That saying folks is crap! Seriously! 

How to deal with bullying, no one, and I mean no one is better than anyone else. People are People! Everybody is a people! lol

All actions have consequences, and a person’s actions remove or add privileges to their lives. The counter to that is also true, some people who didn’t act, catch the consequence. Therefore, people that don’t deserve good stumble into good, and people that don’t deserve bad get caught up in bad, which was not of their own making.  

How should you deal with a bully? Next time someone is intentionally hurtful or even harmful: 

  • REMOVE YOURSELF TO A SAFE PLACE. TRUST YOUR GUT!!!
  • When safe, remember that feeling that you had with the exercise above.
    • What you felt in the exercise above, is the driving force that is being used to spew the hate to hurt another human being.
    • I hope that you have chosen to not hurt others, but if you have… STOP and get help! You are worth it too!   
      • Remember, hurt people, hurt people.  
    • The person’s action of hurting you, at the core, has nothing to do with “YOU”! 
      • Always strive to be the best version of yourself you can be! You, yes YOU, have so much to offer and give! (And I don’t care what you say about you not having worth! You do! I don’t care who YOU are or what YOU have or haven’t done. If you have breath, you have worth.) If you get honest and stop intentionally harming yourself and others, you can be free! 
    • When people do hurt you, DO NOT hurt in silence.
      • Silence is literally trapping pain inside. Pain that will eat you alive. 

So, in short:

  1. If you are not safe, get safe!
  2. If you are safe, remember to stay safe!
  3. If you have pain, TALK to someone you trust!
  4. If you don’t have someone you trust, get involved with professionals that will create a healthy team around you: counselors, spiritual leaders, teachers, grandma’s/grandpa’s if you don’t have one look for somebody else’s!  Remember, we are better together!  

National Suicide Prevention Week

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Suicide. It is a painful, traumatic event. An event where a loved one finds themselves in such a dark place that they feel there is no way out. While this is not true and there is always a way out, the path out is rarely illuminated without another person there to help guide that hurting person out of despair. 

As painful as it is to acknowledge, when I look up the statistics for our home state, Montana, I see that we are back in the #1 slot for suicide per capita. This is a terrible place we find ourselves in. One that can be downright frightening, especially if you have a family member who struggles with mental illness or suicidal thoughts/tendencies.

Fear is crippling. Fear on the side of the one suffering from mental illness, or the family member, loved one, friend, co-worker, or even acquaintance of the person suffering from the illness. 

This is where the rubber meets the road! This is where we can and must act! Swiftly, precisely, and with no regard to our own personal time, or inconvenience. This is our time to save a life! The wonderful thing we have on our side is that, while the person struggling with suicide is still alive, they are so often looking for that person to share their time, and illuminate their path out! Just a simple act of giving your time and attention can lead to a person finding freedom from hopelessness!

Words into Actions: Dealing with the REAL! 

I love to say that people are people! It doesn’t matter! Nothing matters, other than that we are all people! We must remember that, and hold to the fact that no one is better than anyone else. 

This is where I like our “U’s” or “US” from last week. 

The U’s:

Understandingly– Knowing that if we ask a question, we don’t in any way control the answer, if, in fact, an “answer” is what we seek.

Uniquely– Each person in our lives is Unique! This is such a cool thing, and when we see it and stop attempting to make those around “Us” “UN” unique we win. 

Underwear(ly) or at least (ee)- We all put it on one leg at a time, and at the end of the day they all stink! 

SO DO NOT FEEL LIKE YOU ARE LESS THAN OR NOT WORTH THE TIME OR EFFORT TO IMPROVE. YOU ARE!

With Suicidal concern:

These are some important things to remember in the moment. Ask the person a few questions:

  1. Do they have suicidal thoughts?
  2. Do they have a plan to harm themselves?
  3. Do they have the intent to carry out that plan?

Do’s and Don’ts:

Do Document that plan
Do Call 911 and/or take them to the nearest emergency room
Don’t leave them alone
Don’t rest until they are in capable hands at the local emergency room 

Make sure that they have a plan of recovery when they leave and be their support getting them into therapy post-release. They need a person to be there and speak for them, and you could be the person who saved a life! So great to give!